Who's melting down now?

Parenting can often feel like walking on eggshells. Seeing your child stressed, frustrated, and angry you don't know what will put him/her over the edge.  Whether you are a new parent, single parent, parent of toddlers to teenagers, this class is for you.

Who's Melting Down Now is less about your child and more how you respond to your child. This class will help you not be afraid of saying the wrong thing or becoming frustrated and responding with anger. Instead of becoming emotionally reactive, this class will teach you how to remain calm and consistent during conflict. Modeling these parenting skills, you will help your child begin to think, feel, and act differently in distressing situations.  You will feel better about being a parent, while allowing your child to better self regulate negative emotions. With the right approach you can have a loving relationship and help your child become the independent, caring and capable young adult.

Presenter

Randy Floyd, LSCSW, Founder, Clinical Level Therapist

Randy is the founder of Midwest Anxiety.  He is a Licensed Specialist Clinical Social Worker who is an optimist and passionate about helping people focus on what they can do rather than what they can't do.  He believes that every person is born with unique strengths and that over time life's stressors can blur our abilities.  Randy believes that building a strong therapeutic relationship and tapping into a person's strengths is the most essential components of the therapeutic experience.

Class Recording

Please check out the recording of the Live class.  Hope you enjoy ;)

 

This class is > about You and < About your child

Schedule

7:00pm - 7:10pm: Introduction

7:10pm - 7:45pm: Discussion of Regulating Your Parenting Emotions

7:45pm - 7:55pm: Questions & Answers

7:55pm - 8:00pm: Follow up after class

Is your child melting down a Positive, negative, or neutral situation?

Self awareness is the #1 Super skill.  Understanding how your parenting thoughts, feelings, and behaviors impact your child are the key that unlocks all things parenting.

Rules to not meltdown 

  1. Be Self Aware of your Thoughts, Feelings, and Behaviors when your child is melting down!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
  2. Let your child own his/her behaviors.  
  3. Step outside of your child's meltdowns.  Understand that the meltdowns are a behavior that is communicating something.
  4. Eat Bon Bons during your child's meltdowns.  
  5. Instead of yelling at your child during meltdowns, give them an opposite behavior.  Smile, give them a hug, whisper.

Behavioral Modification System

To Assist Child in Responding to Parent’s Prompt

  1. Identify chair in a room that is not in focal point of home (not in child’s room)
  2. Establish that you will give child 1 minute to respond to request
  3. Prompt child to complete request (Give 1 minute for child to respond. Do not prompt, talk, negotiate, etc.)
  4. If child completes request, there will be no consequence given. May give reward on intermittent basis.
  5. If child did not respond to prompt. Begin timer until child has responded to prompt.
  6. Child will then be required to owe you the time sitting in the chair for every second that it took to respond.
  7. It is very important that you are very accurate in the child owing only the amount of time it took to respond.
  8. Child will be required to owe the time in the chair prior to any rewards, fun activities, screen time, etc.
  9. Child must sit still, without distractions, noises, etc.
  10. If time required in the chair is longer than appropriate to sit in chair at one time, parent can give break to get up but then child must complete time owed after break.
  11. If child has done well with owing time in chair, parent may want to consider reducing time. Do not tell child that you have reduced the time in chair until you are ready to reduce time.

To Assist with Emotional Regulation

  1. Identify chair in a room that is not in focal point of home (not in child’s room)
  2. Establish that you will give child 1 minute to regulate emotion (stop crying, yelling, stomping, etc)
  3. Prompt child to “calm down” (Give 1 minute for child to respond. Do not prompt, talk, negotiate, etc.)
  4. If child has calmed down within 1 minute, no further action needed.
  5. If child has not calmed down, prompt child to “go sit in the chair” (Give 1 minute for child to respond)
  6. If child has responded and sits in the chair, the child then can get up from chair anytime child has decided to regulate emotion. Child to sit in chair until child decides to get up. If child gets out of chair and has not calmed down, ask child to go sit back in the chair until decided to be calm.
  7. If child has not decided to sit in chair after prompting, begin timer and child will have to sit in chair for the amount of time it takes to get in the chair.
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The materials distributed are provided with the understanding that the author and presenters are not engaged in rendering professional services. This is a psychoeducational class and information in the presentations or group discussions by the presenters, facilitators, or participants should not be considered to be medical, psychological, legal, financial, or spiritual counsel. The presentations and written materials are not intended to provide medical, psychological, legal, financial, or spiritual services or counseling. If expert assistance or counseling is needed, the services of a competent professional should be sought. Any opinions, finding, recommendations or conclusions expressed by the author(s) or speaker(s) do not necessarily reflect the views of Midwest Anxiety, LLC.