The Midwest Anxiety Behavioral Modification Plan

Are your sticker charts and marble jars not working anymore? If you're struggling to get your child to go to bed on time, respond to your requests, stop fighting with their sibling, clean their room, do their homework, you definately need to join us and learn about the behavior modification plan we created for all our Individual Therapy families. This behavior modification plan will allow you to emotionally take a step back and allow your child to take more responsibility for their choices. The Midwest Anxiety Behavior Modification Plan will give you the opportunity to love your child more than yell at them.

Presenter

Randy Floyd, LSCSW, Founder, Clinical Level Therapist

Randy is the founder of Midwest Anxiety.  He is a Licensed Specialist Clinical Social Worker who is an optimist and passionate about helping people focus on what they can do rather than what they can't do.  He believes that every person is born with unique strengths and that over time life's stressors can blur our abilities.  Randy believes that building a strong therapeutic relationship and tapping into a person's strengths is the most essential components of the therapeutic experience.

Class Recording

Please check out the recording of the Live class.  Hope you enjoy ;)

This class is > about You and < About your child

Is your child melting down a Positive, negative, or neutral situation?

Self awareness is the #1 Super skill.  Understanding how your parenting thoughts, feelings, and behaviors impact your child are the key that unlocks all things parenting.

Rules to not meltdown 

  1. Be Self Aware of your Thoughts, Feelings, and Behaviors when your child is melting down!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  2. Let your child own his/her behaviors.  YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR CHILD’S BEHAVIORS!!

  3. Step outside of your child's meltdowns.  Understand that the meltdowns are a behavior that is communicating something.

  4. Eat Bon Bons during your child's meltdowns.  

  5. Instead of yelling at your child during meltdowns, give them an opposite behavior.  Smile, give them a hug, whisper.

  6. Need to have a system working in background holding your child responsible for positive and negative CHOICES.

Behavioral Modification System

To Assist Child in Responding to Parent’s Prompt

  1. Establish that you will give child 1 minute to respond to request.

  2. Prompt child to complete request (Give 1 minute for child to respond. Do not prompt, talk, negotiate, etc.)

  3. If child completes request, there will be no consequence given. May give a “Random Reward” on intermittent basis.

  4. If child did not respond to prompt. Begin timer until child has responded to prompt.

  5. Child will then be required to owe you the time (chores, sitting in a chair, write a note of apology) that it took to respond.

  6. It is very important that you are very accurate in the child owing only the amount of time it took to respond.

  7. Child will be required to owe the time prior to any rewards, fun activities, screen time, etc.

  8. Until child owes time, no rewards, fun activities, etc are given.

  9. After child owes time, rewards, fun activities are restored.

To Assist with Emotional Regulation

  1. Establish that you will give child 1 minute to regulate emotion (stop crying, yelling, stomping, etc)

  2. Prompt child to “calm down” (Give 1 minute for child to respond. Do not prompt, talk, negotiate, etc.)

  3. If child has calmed down within 1 minute, may give a “Random Reward” on intermittent basis.

  4. If child has not calmed down, begin timer until child has calmed down.

  5. Child will then be required to owe you the time (chores, sitting in a chair, write a note of apology) that it took to calm down

  6. It is very important that you are very accurate in the child owing only the amount of time it took to calm down.

  7. Child will be required to owe the time prior to any rewards, fun activities, screen time, etc.

  8. Until child owes time, no rewards, fun activities, etc are given.

  9. After child owes time, rewards, fun activities are restored.

Who Will Win??

IT’S GOING TO GET HARDER, BEFORE IT GET’S EASIER!!! Your child’s WILL vs. Your EMOTIONAL CONTROL!! Whomever is stronger will win.

Limits and Restrictions:

The materials distributed are provided with the understanding that the author and presenters are not engaged in rendering professional services. This is a psychoeducational class and information in the presentations or group discussions by the presenters, facilitators, or participants should not be considered to be medical, psychological, legal, financial, or spiritual counsel. The presentations and written materials are not intended to provide medical, psychological, legal, financial, or spiritual services or counseling. If expert assistance or counseling is needed, the services of a competent professional should be sought. Any opinions, finding, recommendations or conclusions expressed by the author(s) or speaker(s) do not necessarily reflect the views of Midwest Anxiety, LLC.